Our sex drives are forever changing. Whether you’re feeling stressed or just CBA, it’s totally normal for your sexual desire to ebb and flow. Here, 15 married couples explain what is normal for them.
1. “At least once on the weekends and about two times during the week on average. It really just depends how tired we are during the week when we get home. Some weeks we don’t have any. I’ve been married eight years.” [via]
2. “I’m 27 and my wife is 31, and we have three children. Our 10th anniversary is next month. We do it everyday. Rarely it slips to every other night if we’re busy, but never a longer gap then that. One time she was mad and we didn’t do it or about 13 days. I thought that was the worst.” [via]
3. “No kids, married five years, [we have sex] four times a week. We have been together for a total of eight years with dating included.” [via]
4. “Married one year. Twice a month.” [via]
5. “No kids, [we got] married young. Year one: eight times a week. Year two: five times a week. Year three: three times a week. Year four: once a week. Year five: three times a month. Year six: twice a month.” [via]
6. “Six years married, two kids and a third on the way. Actual intercourse: three to four times a week when she’s not pregnant. During pregnancy (like right now), one to two times a week. She makes sure I’m taken care of, though, even though her sex drive is decreased right now.” [via]
7. “Married five years. Lived together four before that. Have sex once a week.” [via]
8. “Five years here, first kid on the way. Pre-pregnancy, I would say three to five times a week on average. Since she’s been pregnant it’s varied from none for a week, or two to three to five times a day. Just depends on what the hormones are up to. We also take care of ourselves periodically too – more often if the other isn’t feeling up to sex.” [via]
9. “Sadly we are in a pattern of about four to five times a year. Been together 3.5 years. Pregnancies and babies have killed our sex life. I’m a once a day type of libido.” [via]
10. “I’ve been married to the love of my life, my beautiful wife, Julia, for a little over 13 years, and we’ve been steady at one to two times per day for as long as I can remember. When we were first married, it was off the charts. After a while, we slowed down a bit, but we’re still as horny as all get-out.” [via]
11. “Married seven years, four-year-old twins, sex is usually once or twice a week, though we occasionally go through spurts where it’s every day for a week or three.” [via]
12. “We have sex nearly every day we’re together. Sometimes I’m not in the mood but do it anyhow, and I always end up getting in the mood AND am in a better mood afterwards.” [via]
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13. “Married eight years, one kid (seven years old). We have sex once every two months on average. I gave up trying to initiate things a couple of years ago. Can only get shut down so many times in a row before it gets old. [via]
14. “Married three years, with a four-year-old and 13-month-old. Our sex life sucks. I have no sex drive, but I think it’s because of sleep deprivation and hormones. But anyways, sex varies. Sometimes it’s once a month, other times it’s a few times a week.” [via]
15. “We have been married 2.5 years now, and we have sex almost every day, and sometimes twice a day on the weekend. We do have the occasional week where we get really busy, and we go a few days without, but when we get the chance to again after those few days, we seem to have a marathon.” [via]